Mars, Venus & Computers

Barely a bud but will blossom soon....

Barely a bud but will blossom soon....


Should a “computer” be a masculine or a feminine noun?

The men’s group decided that “computer” should definitely be of the feminine gender, because:

1. No one but their creator understands their internal logic;
2. The native language they use to communicate with other computers is incomprehensible to everyone else;
3. Even the smallest mistakes are stored in long term memory for possible later retrieval; and
4. As soon as you make a commitment to one, you find yourself spending half your paycheck on accessories for it.

The women’s group, however, concluded that computers should be masculine because:

1. In order to do anything with them, you have to turn them on;
2. They have a lot of data but still can’t think for themselves;
3. They are supposed to help you solve problems, but half the time they ARE the problem; and
4. As soon as you commit to one, you realise that if you had waited a little longer, you could have gotten a better model.

And so they say men are from Mars & we are from Venus but far from that, God has taken us (women) out of the ribs of man so if anything is to go by with this, we are made to be partners living alongside with them. If God had meant for us to be subjected to men, God would have taken a bone from Adam’s feet to create Eve. Then why is it so hard to get along??? To some, perception is reality, what they perceive may not even be what it seems but men compute things using logic far more than we women do because we tend to rely on emotions or the ‘feel’ of things when we compute. To men, the crux is to ‘get the job done.’ To women, ‘when they can deal with their feelings then they’d attempt at the job.’ I’m speaking from a purely personal point of view in my dealings with friends, loved ones & computers.

Divemuster told me that marriages are made in heaven but it would take a lifetime of work on earth. How true. In an age where people agree to disagree, holy unions had been defiled by the ways of the world. The world says if a marriage doesn’t work, then there’s no point living in misery. God says, apart from adultery, there should be no grounds for divorce. How does one work towards rebuilding a hope that two people have sworn before God to live in health & sickness, for richer & poorer, till death do they part? Before we even think of marriage, in a time where relationships meant that two people has decided to come together to work out their differences, very often, these are forgotten when one does the building & the other tears it down. Not on purpose but on a different perception of how relationships should be lived out and on the expectations not met. Here again, is where the problem lies as two people from two magnitudes of experiences in the past are coming together to make a future, conflicts & misunderstandings abound especially if one believes that he/she is getting the raw end of the deal by being the giver. Once the question of who gives more comes into the picture, the relationship becomes imbalanced. Tendency of feeling short-changed & taken for granted become a preoccupation & arguments that ensue have no relation to the issue but just a means of lashing out at the receiver. Then when nothing seems to be getting through to either party, one would resort to hit out at the other’s character & personality in order for the person to feel hurt enough to hopefully identify with the grieving party. Anger, bitterness & resentment would be carried over to the life not yet lived. Where will it end? Or shall I say, when will the relationship begin?

When anger turns to hatred, no amount of talking will ever improve the status quo. This is where most relationships breakdown. This is when God takes over too. Both vessels are broken. Some, into pieces that may never fit together again. If there is no surrender, God cannot take these broken vessels to be made into clay & remoulded into new vases. Then He puts them through the fire again, to refine them into beautiful porcelain, fit for the use of God’s purpose……

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11 Responses
  1. Divemuster says:

    Here’s another thought to ponder: Love is Blind … my take is that is has to be for how else can you live with one another despite the differences?
    Yes, love is blind because it chooses to be.

  2. pummkin says:

    Love is sometimes deaf too. Despite hearing those cutting words, one can choose to forgive & forget & so it’s forgotten until repetition brings them to life again. Soon, someone’s going to add, love is dumb. It has to be coz how else can you choose to be blind & deaf & still love the other with all you can??? Hahahahaha!!!! Love is handicapped!!!!!

  3. Divemuster says:

    You know what they say;
    Love is Blind
    Marriage is an Institution
    Therefore, marriage is an institution for the blind!!


  4. pummkin says:

    Love is often misunderstood. No one can be as blind as those who choose not to see & no one can be as deaf as those who choose not to hear.

    Love has no right or wrong. It only has intentions to be reciprocated. It’s what & how we ‘SEE’ love that gets us blind, deaf & dumb…..

    Eh, if you are reading this,you are CACAT too!

  5. LadyHawk says:

    Love is accepting. Love is not judgemental. I’m glad God is more merciful than us.

  6. Divemuster says:

    Am proud to be CACAT in this manner… muahahaha …

  7. jazzmint says:

    hehe I only know mouse with pad is female, mouse without pad is male.but nowadays with laser mouse who needs a pad rite 🙂

  8. Princess says:

    Hi Pummkin!

    Enjoyed reading your blog…:0)

    Will catch up!

    The other quote that I read from a book says, “Love is blind but marriage is an eye opener…”

    I really admire those of you who have made observatory remarks and the diversity of opinions. thanks Pummkin for putting it simply…Love reading your blog :)Keep it up!

    God bless…!See ya…


  9. pummkin says:

    Hey Princess! Thanks for dropping in! I haven’t laughed so much over being blind , deaf & dumb (no pun intended to physically impaired individuals) at once & perhaps I should stay ‘CACAT’ to have this much fun!

    Jazz, you are right, with laser mouse, who needs pad? Maybe the mouse with no pad needs laser treatment!!!!

  10. Anonymous says:

    learning to love someone imperfect perfectly is my idea of it tho.. we’re all imperfect yet God loves us perfectly too.. i think that’s great

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